90/10 Principle by Stephen Covey

Discover the 90/10 Principle.
發現了 90/10 的定律。
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
它將改變你的一生（最低限度，它將改變你對不同情況的反應）。
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react.
90/10 的定律是什麼？生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成，餘下的 90% 則由你的反應
而決定。
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We
cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws
our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
這意味著什麼？我們無法掌握那 10% 的際遇。　我們無法阻止行程因汽車壞掉、航班
誤點，甚或車子拋錨而延誤。
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the
other 90%.
我們無法控制那 10% 的際遇，但餘下的 90% 則不然。你可以決定餘下的 90% 。
How? ……….By your reaction.
如何？ … 憑你的反應。
You cannot control a red light. But you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool
you; YOU can control how you react.
你不能控制交通燈轉紅，但你能夠控制你的反應。別讓他人愚弄你，你能夠控制你的反
應。
Let's use an example.
讓我們舉個例子。
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
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onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
你與你的家人吃早餐，你的女兒不小心把咖啡潑倒在你的襯衫上，這是你無法控制的情
況。
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
下一步將如何則由你的反應而定。
You curse.
你開始責罵。
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in
tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs
and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
你狠狠地臭罵女兒一頓，令她陷於痛苦之中。然後你又把怨氣發洩在太太身上，責難她
把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的是一場短暫的罵戰。你生氣地上樓更換你的襯衫。你下
樓，然後發現你的女兒正哭著吃早餐並趕著回校。結果，她錯過了巴士。
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your
daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph
speed limit.
你的太太趕著上班，你匆忙開車把女兒送回學校。因為你已經遲到了，你以時速四十英
里在一條限速三十英里　上的道路前進。
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your
daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20
minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
你付了六十元道路罰款，終於抵達學校，並已遲到十五分鐘。你的女兒沒有跟你道別便
已跑進學校。你回到公司，已是九時二十分了，這時你竟然發現──你忘了帶公事包。這
是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的運氣每況越下，你開始渴望回家。
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse
and daughter.
當你下班回家，你感到你與太太及女兒的關係上出現微小裂痕。
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
為什麼？ … 一切皆由你早上的反應而起。
Why did you have a bad day?
為何你會有如此糟糕的一天？
A) Did the coffee cause it? Ａ）是咖啡所造成的嗎？
B) Did your daughter cause it? Ｂ）是你的女兒所造成的嗎？
C) Did the policeman cause it? Ｃ）是警察所造成的嗎？
D) Did you cause it? Ｄ）是你所造成的嗎？
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The answer is “D". 答案是Ｄ。
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5
seconds is what caused your bad day.
你無法控制女兒打翻咖啡一事，但你在緊接那五秒內的反應讓霉運開始發生。
Here is what could have and should have happened.
以下是你改寫命運的結局。
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.
You gently say, "Its ok
honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to
look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and
waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss
comments on how good the day you are having.
咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女兒幾乎要哭了，但你溫柔地說：「親愛的，這並不算什麼，
但你下次得小心一點了。」你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完畢並拿起你的公事包後，
你下樓去，望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回頭並向你揮手。你早了五分鐘
回到公司，並親切地與你的同事打招呼。你的上司亦對你新的一天給予正面的評價。
Notice the difference?
看到兩者的分別嗎？
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
兩個不同的情景，由同一個開首所引起。但結局完全兩樣。
Why?
為什麼？
Because of how you REACTED.
皆因你的反應而起。
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was
determined by your reaction.
你或許真的無法掌控 10% 的際遇，但剩下的 90% 則可以由你的反應而定。
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something
negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You
don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
以下有一些實踐 90/10 定律的方法。如有人說起你的是非，千萬別當一塊「海綿」，讓
那些攻擊性的說話像水在玻璃上一般的流走。別讓那些負面評價纏繞著你！
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a
friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
適當的回應能夠使你的生活免受破壞。一個錯誤的反應能夠使你失去朋友、生氣、甚或
被壓力壓得喘不過氣來。
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on
the steering wheel?
A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you
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curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
如果車子拋錨了，你會如何感想？你會生氣嗎？你會否猛擊車上的鐵鍊？我的一個朋友
就把鐵鍊弄下來！你會怒罵嗎？你的血壓是否急速上升？你會否嘗試去踫擊他們？
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
誰會在意你上班遲到了十秒？為何讓車子破壞你的駕駛過程？
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
記著 90/10 的定律，別在意。
You are told you lost your job.
你被通知說你被辭退了。
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time
into finding another job.
你為何失眠與憤怒 ? 事情總是發生了。不如用你憂心的力量及時間去找尋新工作吧！
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour
frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
航班延誤了，而它將影響你一整天的行程。為何將你的怒氣發洩在服務員的身上？她並
不能阻止事情發生。
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It
will just make things worse.
如利用你的時間學習，或認識旁邊的乘客。不要憤怒，它將令你的一天變的更糟。
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.
You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and
apply this principle.
現在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。實踐它，你將會發現它的驚人效果。嘗試實行它，你將
不會有任何損失。 90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少數的人懂得運用它。
The result?
結果呢？
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
超過百萬人沈溺在痛苦、嘗試、問題與心傷之中。我們必須理解並實踐 90/10 的定律。
It CAN change your life!!!
它將改變你的一生。
Enjoy…. 願與各位並勉！

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Spending Time with our young children is Love

Spending Time with our young children is Love
Practically all parents consider their children as their most important asset. So we send them for additional lessons in music, art, computer, speech and drama, dance, ballet, tennis, etc. We also buy for them expensive toys, computer games, etc. to keep them occupied. We think that by doing so we are giving them a head start in life. But we seldom stop to ask ourselves whether we have equipped them for a life of self-worth and confidence. Why do I say that?

It has been said that by the time a child is seven years old; his attitude is set for life. And when our young child constantly pelts us with his questions, (and we are hard pressed by our furiously competitive jobs) how do we normally respond? Have we stopped and reflected on our attitude towards his insatiable questioning?

Now consider for a moment, a child coming into a room to ask Dad or Mom questions or to invite Mom or Dad to play with him or to request spending time with Dad or Mom, but the parent frequently says, “I’m too busy now.” What does that signal to the child? To the child the message is perceived as. “

To Dad, I’m not as important as the newspaper he is reading or the time he spends doing his work at the computer. To Mom, I’m not worth as much as her soap opera on television.”

We forget that children rarely want to spend much time in conversation with their parents. Yes, they ask lots of questions and when they get the answers, they then move on to the next thing that captures their attention. They may sit close a while, perhaps give or receive a hug, and then they are off.

If you are a parent, I would encourage you to make time for your child when your child needs a moment. Most chores can be postponed for a few seconds or minutes. Most activities can be interrupted without you suffering harm or losing out on important information. If you must delay your response to your child for a minute or two, call your child to your side and put your arm around him so that you convey the message, “I want you close to me. I like being with you. I’m not rejecting you, merely delaying my response to your question for a few moments.”

We don’t think of the harm we are doing to their adult life when we fail to give them the time they need. Imagine what it is like whenever we go and talk to our boss and our boss frequently has no time for us. Our confidence will be shattered and our self-worth will plunge drastically. What about the child when we unthinkingly do the same? Have we spent time reflecting on this? Have I unconsciously sent a message to my child that might be summed up, “What I want to do is vastly more important than whatever pain I cause you.” This message will be internalized by the child as “I am not worth being around” “I am not worthy to be appreciated and noticed” and it will show up later in his life as a lack of self-worth.

Parents, who make time to informally tutor their child and not scold them whenever the child asks question, will give the child a very strong sense of self-identity and self-worth. They affirm their child. They give their attention to their child. They acknowledge to the child that he is important and worth listening to. The child will have this intuitive sense that, “I am important to my parents. I am so important that they want the very best for me, including the very best education they believe they can give to me. I am so important that they are willing to spend time and energy with me. My parents believe I have the ability to learn and are willing to teach me, and therefore, I must be able to learn well.” A cycle is created: the child is encouraged, the child feels worthy, and the child makes an even bigger effort in learning as a result of the feelings of self-worth. So the child achieves more and learns more. Through his accomplishments and the resulting praises and cheers from the parents, the child has an enhanced feeling of self-worth and the cycle goes round again.

Unfortunately today, we have a mantra that many parents repeat by saying, “I spend quality time with my child and I don’t need quantity time with my child.” They delude themselves! A child, who often does not feel he has access to his parents when he needs the access, does not feel he is loved. He will feel ignored, shunned, insecure and of less worth. Such a child will inevitably have problem with his sense of self-worth later on in life.

The essence of our love for our children is not what we provide for them, but how much we give of ourselves to them. Men, in particular, often don’t understand this. Many have said, “I don’t understand my children. I provide them with everything they need. They don’t appreciate my hard work for them. What more do they want?” They want you! Your ears, your attention, your presence--- Yes your time. “What that must be a joke. Where do I find the time in my stressful life?” you say.

Your most precious gift is your time. Only when you give up your (leisure, computer, game, social, TV, etc) time, do you truly prove your love for your children. Whenever you give your time, you are making a sacrifice, and sacrifice is the essence of love. Thus, you show your love in action and not in words only.

CNY Trip

Japan
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Hitomi and I plan to visit Singapore during our trip during Chinese New Year. Our flight from Narita Airport, Tokyo arrive at Changi Airport midnight.

Oh yeah! Hitomi & I is leaving her apartment for vacation!!~~~

Sunset picture with Hitomi

Singapore
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We tool North West Airline NW5 from Narita Tokyo.... The flight takes about 6 hours (if i am not mistaken) What we do in that plane seat? Great question! hmmm..... Sleep, eat those are common things to do on the plane... watch movie... nothing special, but if you do 'this' on plane. 6 hours is not too long.

When you do 'this' kind of post.... he he, flight time will never be too long. I have one very interesting photo that can't be post here coz Hitomi will kill me for that..

Here we are in Changi Airport that was about 0.15. Hitomi turn up to be high tension and you can see me showing my monkey face. I really mean that.

Happy and hungryly so I decided to go out for a light supper. We then take a short walk around the town so that we can find something to eat. That was midnight but we still see people hanging around 'coffee shop'. Oops please don't misunderstand, the coffee shop I mean here is not like Starbucks. People who live in south east asia should know that. The interesting thing is we found a stall selling durian, imagine how bad Singaporean like that. Smells of durian is good for me I miss that so much, but bad for Hitomi. Check out the photo Hitomi took at the durian stall, she was exciting taking picture but when I asked:'Do you wanna try some?' She said which mean bad smell in Japanese.
Durian mountain

He he..... She was too excited with the food there.


Sentosa Island
The next day is trip to Sentosa Island a beautiful small island at the south part of Singapore not far away from where we spent the night. Therefore we plan to go there by subways, Hitomi was excited with her 1st experiences using subways in Singapore. Although subways here is not as convenient as in Tokyo, that was pretty clean and comfortable. We need to change to special monorail at Hobour Front before crossing the 'sea'. It doesn't seems like a sea to me though. Hobour Front turns up to be a supper stylish shopping complex.
Subways of Singapore.....

That is why the subways are so clean. See?

Here is the shopping mall at Hobuor Front..... I love the design.




We are on the way to Sentosa Island with the little monorail. Below is some pictures we took at Sentosa Island.












Oh yeah! pretty cool island there. We both got tattoo in Sentosa... pretty cool


China Town
After Sentosa i made an appointment with my brother who live in Singapore Eddie. http://www.friendster.com/eddier Eddie is in his 3rd year in NTU studying Electrical & Electronic Engineering or they used to call that triple E. He just came back from a student exchange program which exchanged him to Sweden. During the program he had chance to travel to all those awesome places in Europe including a few famous football club stadium(please don't get me wrong, I mean soccer here) After his training we decided to meet for dinner in China Town, a place full with Chinese stuffs.